When our elders, that we love, reach those stages in life where they are needing more attention medically and with their daily activities, where do you turn?

A normal first instinct is to call or visit the large, resort-looking facilities, we see from our roads. A good majority of us are in "sticker shock" after one or two visits. We start to feel trapped while wondering, "what are we going to do or how will I take care of mom/dad".